Be in like

by Lorin Michel Saturday, June 17, 2017 8:53 PM

I am not in the habit of taking advice from celebrities, having given up any kind of hero worship when I was in my teens. I can like certain types of music and the artists who sing it; ditto actors who are easy on the eyes and who do the kinds of films I like. In my professional life, I’ve encountered far too many celebrities who are so consumed with their own importance that they are nasty, horrible people. Nearly every project I have worked on with a celebrity client was awful, so much so that on the occasion that I get a call from someone’s representative, or even from a celeb themselves, I almost always turn it down. If I don’t, I charge more because I know it’s going to take years off my life. In my business, it’s called a PITA fee. Pain. In. The. Ass.

Many, many years ago, in the late 1980s, early 1990s, I worked with Sting and his wife Trudie Styler on the Rainforest Foundation Fund project. I found them both odd though not as difficult as others. I had never been a big fan of Sting when he was with The Police, but after he started his solo career with The Dream of the Blue Turtles, a jazz infused album, I quickly changed my tune. To this day, I remain a big fan of his music, including his odd Christmas album which isn’t really a Christmas album at all. Which might be exactly why I like it. It’s more atmospheric, with heavy Celtic influences. It remains a favorite, even though my husband doesn’t like it. Likes Sting, just not that album. 

Yesterday, or maybe it was the day before, I had USA Network on while I was on the elliptical. Often times they run Law & Order: SVU or NCIS all day long, one episode after another. It’s great mindless entertainment while I get some exercise. In the mornings, they have this feature called Talk Stoop with Cat Greenleaf. They’re short interviews between shows with top celebrities that are hot, that have the “buzz” for whatever reason. These interviews take place on a recreated city stoop, and almost always include her bulldog – currently a rescue named Steve – on the stoop with her and whomever. I don’t often pay a lot of attention but I do like the idea.

She had an interview with Sting the other day. I only saw the promo so I looked for it on YouTube. He talks about his new album, he talks about his kids and his “anthem or motto.” He jokes about “Keep Calm,” which is unfortunately a terribly overused British mantra. He talks about staying curious as an artist. And then he gets to relationships and he said something so simple, and so profound. “Be in love.” 

And perhaps even more importantly, “like the person” you’re in a relationship with. I found myself nodding along because it couldn’t be more true. Love is wonderful and necessary, but when that all-consuming, fiery love fades after a year or two, it becomes something truly remarkable. It becomes real and honest. To like the person you’re with, to laugh together, to enjoy the same television shows and movies and music. To like to do the same things and go the same places. To want to be with that person more than anyone else. To find them infinitely and continually fascinating. That’s what it’s all about.

I have that with Kevin. I am lucky, I am blessed. He makes me laugh, I make him laugh. After all these years, we are head over heels in like. It continues to be something to celebrate.

Kevin and Lorin as Willie Nelson and Cher. Halloween 2016


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