by Lorin Michel Monday, June 9, 2014 10:35 PM

As a writer, I have penned my share of press releases, an announcement by a company to the press about a new product or endeavor, a new person. In these releases, there is always at least one quote, usually from the president of the company or some other equally important person, saying the perfect thing about whatever is being announced. These quotes are perfect for a reason: they’re made up by writers like me. Anonymous quotes are much the same. They perfectly encapsulate something someone feels but that someone isn’t famous. Somebody, like a writer, makes up the perfect quote, slaps the attribute of “anonymous” on it and changes the world.

Yesterday was National Best Friends Day, a day definitely worth celebrating for a number of reasons. I didn’t write about it over the weekend but considering I don’t need a day to celebrate my besties, I decided the day-after National Best Friends Day was just as celebratory.

Anonymous captured it pretty well: “Best friends don’t necessarily have to talk every day. They don’t even need to talk for weeks. But when they do, it’s like they never stopped talking.”

I’ve had a number of best friends in my life. My first was Steve Payne, only because we went to the same babysitter while our parents worked. We were three or four I think. Then there was Gigi who lived behind us. When I went to school, I met Kathy Kallenbaugh. On the first day of kindergarten, she and I showed up in the exact same hot pink pants suit. Please remember that it was the 1960s. We were besties for at least the year.

Sometime during my elementary school career I also had a friend named Bari, who was nearly cut in half in an ice-boat accident when we were in 3rd grade. Then there was Sharon Watson. She and I were in separate classes and rivals, not in sports or with boys, but in intelligence. In fourth grade, the powers that be at the school put us in the same class to make us work harder. We became great friends, at least until we weren’t. I don’t remember why.

When I was 14, my family moved to Columbia, Maryland from Hyde Park, New York and I became best friends with Pam. We were fairly inseparable for the entirety of the year, but after our freshman year of high school, my family moved again. It was the first best friend I’d physically moved away from.

Throughout the last three years of high school I had other close friends, people I would get into trouble with, have sleep overs with, even travel a bit with. None of them really stuck. In college, I had several besties but they didn’t last. There was a lot of hurt and anguish; drama. I was never very good at drama, and we eventually parted ways. Some of them are still “friends” on Facebook; most aren’t. Some I can’t even remember their last names.

Throughout my professional life, I’ve made a number of close friends. People who make me feel better for having been with them, regardless of how the time was spent. Now there’s Connie, and Diane, and of course, Bobbi; Pam.

It occurred to me once a long time ago that I’m not a person who has a lot of friends, but I am a person who has very good friends. People I would do anything for; people who would do anything for me. 2 o’clock in the morning people. And 3 and 4.

Best friends are people you choose for family. I’m lucky in that my sister is also a best friend, perhaps my very best. She and I can talk about anything; we laugh more than we cry. We share. Many people have good relationships with their family because they have to; many people don’t. Like I said, lucky.

Eustache Deschamps, the medieval French poet, said “Friends are relatives you make for yourself.”

Yesterday was National Best Friends Day but as far as I’m concerned, every day you have a best friend is a day to celebrate, and a life to live out loud.

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Comments (3) -

6/10/2014 6:57:14 AM #

I grin to myself and think the same thing piglet does...albeit about you. Xo

Pam United States

6/10/2014 8:39:43 AM #

You're my best friend without a doubt. Smile

khris United States

6/12/2014 10:14:58 PM #

Pam, remind me to tell you about my "albeit" story. It's definitely worth celebrating.

Lorin United States

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